Yes, this is a real Am I The Asshole, not one where the answer is super obvious and the user is just looking to have their ego stroked.
My SO has BDD and genuinely thinks they look ugly naked. I think they’re 1000% incorrect and that they’re the sexiest human alive, and I would die happy if I could see them naked all the time.
I was diagnosed with a condition called Cone Rod Dystrophy which basically means I’ll lose color vision, then all vision. The timeline is anywhere from next week to 50 years from now.
I want to see them naked every chance I can get so I can cement it in my head before I go blind, but I feel gross for posing that as a reason to let me see them naked.
Like, in the 10 years we’ve been together I’ve never even asked them for a hand job if they didn’t feel up to sex because I didn’t want to seem like a callous asshole, so this would be a big ask from me.
To add in complications, they’re also on the spectrum. Not a criticism since I’m most likely on it too.
Still depends on the relationship, person, and intent. I can’t speak for others. I may react initially negatively, but I am open to coercion.
Crime is really about intent more than any other factor. Manipulation and coercion can be done with positive and negative intent. If a person manipulates me at a clever level with the best of intentions, I have no problem with it, but again, I only speak for myself.
You are open to being convinced.
That is not what I said or meant, and it lacks nuance in an unnecessarily insulting way that I find offensive.
No you don’t. :p
Manipulation and coercion when used for dialogue and arguments are inherently negative. That is the meaning that the words carry. Trying to use them in the way that you did means you used the wrong words when trying to communicate with anyone else.
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Lol you’re just a boring narcissist advocating for conditional love and emotional abuse.
Recommend the books Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist, and The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans and Controlling People by Patricia Evans. And Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft. Many available for free as pdfs or from local libraries.
Not at all. I do not give a damn about myself. I am as far from narcissism as humanly possible. You are being dogmatic and unneighborly and toxic with your negativity and lack of substance in reply along with a personal attack in a conversation about the third person. You are a troll, and should be ashamed of yourself for such useless negative behavior. If this is how your lack of morals and ethics talk to strangers, please block me so that you never interact with me. You have a real impact on others with your negativity. I am in social isolation from 11 years of chronic physical disability, and I do not accept the tax bill for your unsolicited negativity directed at me personally.
Lol classic narcissistic ego wound response
Those recommendations were for readers of your comment, not for you btw. I don’t care about you.