This could easily be a monkeys paw situation. Perhaps the thing that makes the nd people you interact with kind and understanding is having experienced oppression
Elon musk has autism, for example, and he is a notable piece of shit
He SAYS he has it, but he’s a massive liar. He may have it, or he may not have it, but if his word is all the evidence we have, then we have no evidence at all.
He’s a prolific example and while the veracity of his diagnosis can be debated (I don’t think it’s a stretch but I also agree it’s not a given) it’s not hard to come across people with autism who are racist, fascist, homophobic, etc. especially young people.
I’ve done autism focused counseling for well over a decade. I’ve talked to a bunch of people with autism who were super into ww2 and Hitler (like in a they thought he was super cool way), who got swept up into tea party and maga rhetoric, etc. some don’t give a shit about politics but are still really vindictive and their tendency to ruminate and obsess about things leads to shit like doxxing people who they fight with online or form parasocial relationships around. Some of the more capable people I’ve worked with have deeply internalized ableism and resentment towards anyone who needs accommodations because they’ve managed to power through high school and college and now they have a high paying tech job (though often their career is stalled because while their output is stellar they are considered socially awkward so moving to supervisory roles that would earn them more significant pay are locked away, adding an extra dimension to the resentment)
Toxic behavior is human, it’s up to us to reflect on what parts of us are shitty and try to improve. This is true regardless of neurodiversity status
Mhh I don’t agree. I don’t know how to express it but I think experiencing hardship doesn’t automatically make you a better person.
Also being a piece of shit doesn’t have to be caused by autism.
It doesn’t automatically, agreed, it can absolutely make you a bitter vindictive asshole. But it can also make you an empathic person who understands how hard it can be. The absence of it is far more likely to make you an out of touch moron though
“It’s a banana, what could it cost, $10?” kind of thing. “If you need an accommodation just have your dad call the ceo”
Greg Wallace also is a scumbag who tried to use autism as a defence. There have been high profile murder cases in the UK recently where autistic/ND teenagers killed other kids/teens. Douchebags and evil exist among all neurotypes.
Come to Germany. The monkeys paw drawback is the INTENSE eye contact
Where does Germany have reliable transport?
Based on perspective everywhere or nowhere.
Compared to Dutch trains nowhere. Compared to the nothingness in the USA everywhere.
Yep, basically what I was getting at. It’s not perfect, but it’s good enough to use as your primary method of transportation without fucking your life up.
People in Germany have very high standards. If a train that comes once an hour is 20 min late it’s considered unreliable. To be fair we can expect better though.
But As someone who has lived in the USA in the past but now lives in Germany, Germany feels so much better transport wise.
Is that high standards? Japan’s Shinkansen has an average delay of just 20 seconds.
That’s not having a nice standard. Why should there be a standard for delayed transportation? 20min delays are anyway on the low end when it comes to DB
Lol no it’s not, let’s not pretend driving a car is a choice here
Reliable enough for what? I wouldn’t use it to transport organs, but if you use it to commute to work in/around even small cities, you won’t get fired for being late all the time. I know DB isn’t perfect, but I’m very glad for it on a regular basis.
I also moved here from the US, where my 45 km commute between neighboring cities on the most traveled corridor in the country took two and a half hours by public transport, so you know, lowered expectations…
Reliable enough to commute to and from your job. In my experience DB ist really bad at that, especially if you’re taking the IC or ICE. intracity public transport usually isn’t run by DB, except for the S-Bahns, which work reliably-ish, most of the time. Credit where credit’s due
Edit: Sorry, I’m a bit cynical when it comes to the current DB
Depends. It’s probably better than Alaska, but worse than the Vatican.
Trains are too expensive, too few. Busses don’t drive where there are few people. If you are one of many you will be fine.
Ha, that brings back memories. I lived there for ten years and had to get used to the fact that it’s not considered impolite to stare there.
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Just remember: some people lack theory of mind.
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Delusional stuff.
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I kinda think more direct communication (without restraint) would lead to (even) more conflict
Yes and no. It all depends on what people are taught to care about.
Saying something like “I hate your dress”, yes, that’s bad and doesn’t matter because the only person who should care is the person wearing it.
Saying something, however, like “Don’t do or say that to me” yes, absolutely should be said and people should respect that.
Conflict that is worthwhile, though.
You lost me at Pokemon
Same. Cassette Beasts is much better.
You know, given the general user base on lemmy, I’ve always wondered why there is no active Pokemon community on here.
My guess would be the anti-corporate-ness of the user base. I did quite a lot of Pokémon in my youth and still know far too much about it. But realizing how much of a scam it is, in many ways, has definitely killed my enjoyment of it…
I think it’s a stepping stone of evolution.
It is in the sense that it’s a mutation, but it’s not inherently better in any way. Even if it were, variety allows us to rely on each other’s specializations and adapt as a collective.
The NTs would probably be seen as dry and boring
It reminds me of the memes where NTism is pathologised. “Has an intense need for small talk and eye contact.”
