32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?

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    4 days ago

    Have your friends take “candid” photos of you doing stuff. They’re not actually candid, they’re fully thought out and planned.

    In all seriousness, I don’t think I could ever do that.

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      3 days ago
      1. Do something cool: work on your car, do sports, go to a party, go on a hike…

      2. Have a friend with you and tell them beforehand that you want them to take some pictures of you now and then.

      3. Enjoy your activity with your friend

      4. ???

      5. Profit

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      4 days ago

      Even if you can’t manage staging something like that, even just asking a friend to help you take some pictures will up your odds significantly. The pictures are going to be the first thing most people see on your profile so having a friend help find good angles and such will be really helpful