check out monster hunter (world/rise/wilds) and hop on bow, light bowgun, or heavy bowgun. expect a steep learning curve, but it shouldn’t be bad if you’re used to soulslikes, monhun is just precious with iframes, so it’s a lot tighter to iframes through moves than it is in a typical souls/like
if you pick it up and end up needing a hand, hit me up! always happy to teach people how to hunt
shoutout to demon’s souls for its cracked out magic system, it goes hard lmao
what does that distinction mean to you, aside from the literal wording being different?
oh you mean they’re not diagnosed with depression, they are only reporting higher scores of anxiety and depression, i see
i don’t understand what the implication is here. is more likely to report depression symptoms meaningfully distinct from having them? do we think that men born in the summer are just more honest about their mental health struggles?
yoooo nice, yeah finding the collectibles in khazan has been kinda tough… i just wrapped my piss (friend group name for lies of p lmao) ng run and now i’m gonna do ng+ with plc… it took me like a year to finish piss LOL, i was really slow on it but i’m cooking now because of my friend group
anyone here on khazan aka HOT GUY SOULS?? great blend of fast paced combat, broken combos, and a varied and expressive defense game. and the protag is a hot guy. really really enjoying it, including the over-the-top korean revenge plot
that’s what happens when you start to push your skills to see as far as they’ll go
although it seems like you may not have realized that skill is just a function of your natural ability, the people around you who might have taught you (or not) and… time invested
i think it’s harder to view your skill as a part of your identity, once you realize that. like, i am very good at soulslikes / monster hunter, which is cool and flashy, but also… i’ve been playing them for almost ten years now, and games as a whole my entire life: of course i’m good at them
on the other hand, you might struggle to learn something despite your time invested… then it sucks, because you’re probably missing something, or just not very naturally inclined towards what you’re trying to learn. but you there’s nothing you can do about that but seek out teachers and continue to try
at the end of the day, all you can really count as a merit for or against yourself is the time you’ve invested
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all that said, we all recognize we each have inherent worth on the basis that we exist and we’re alive… right? :)
well uh, i get an error “cannot complete request”, so,
i get the point, but both of the posts there are things that are not only believably true, but i do believe them to some extent, and am only disappointed that they’re fake headlines
organizing work, mutual aid, and unionizing work is the new work of seeing and being seen. hell, give it long enough and it might usurp churches as third places
i, for one, am also transmasc and i appreciate this meme
lmao i understand the point you’re trying to make (“happiness is an equation largely derived from our social circle”; and, not coincidentally, women tend to have bigger ones) but, per the article:
It’s worth noting that consistent with past research, both men and women in relationships were happier than their single counterparts, on average.
again, i understand your point, they just literally contradicted it lmao
holy
In March, it was revealed that the Texas Department of Public Safety recorded every time a resident requested to update their gender on their driver’s licenses online. The gathered data also included people who inquired about the process via phone or in person.
Also in March, Republican Attorney General Ken Paxton directed state agencies to ignore court orders on gender changes that conflicted with state law.
not that it should be surprising but it’s surprising to have it confirmed
it was my hope that explaining things the way i had would expose OP’s contradictory behavior, although i would certainly hear you out if you felt i could have approached it better
i added my 2c because i thought OP might be more amenable if the point about the woman who had been abused was conceded, as well as trying to clear up the understanding about why we gauge people based on how they gender people they don’t like
i think you’re probably right about them feeling directly empathic about the situation, although i don’t think that excuses the way they were behaving. they were pretty clear upfront about defending the woman who had been abused, so i feel like if they had an equally understandable story, they would have been upfront about it as well. of course, that is an assumption on my part, which could be incorrect, but i think questioning why they felt like their behavior was OK was fair
Banning is language control
yyyyyyyyes, you’re correct. what i meant in my post was more like, we cannot control what OP thinks or how OP speaks of people personally. like, we literally have no power there. i intended to juxtapose that with what you’ve mentioned, banning and such, but perhaps i wasn’t as clear as i could have been
i hear what you’re saying about issuing a warning vs a ban, although they had a direct dialogue with ada about the situation, so not sure how much more of a warning would have been effective. and, you know, sometimes one does want to just silence the opposition; it’s not every person or every space’s job to be persuasive and understanding; as you say, we are an online safe space for trans people, not the government. i definitely don’t disagree with ada’s moderation style for LBZ, and i don’t disagree with her choice here, either
the things you’re explaining are things i’ve been thinking about, though, so i appreciate you saying them, regardless
so uh, generally, as transgender people and allies, we use one’s respect of a transgender person’s gender as a gauge of how valid they perceive the self identification of gender
and this includes trans people who have done shitty things, committed crimes, or, as in your case, been abusive
we use this as a gauge because it reflects how much the viewer believes that respect of gender identity is a right vs a privilege. if a trans person commits a crime or wrongs you, and you decide misgendering that person is OK, then it would seem you think treating trans people as their gender is revocable i.e. a privilege, not a right
it’s not so much “hurting our feelings” as, indicating to us, that trans rights are not important to you, or that the transgender identity is only worth respecting if you’re a “good person”, or whatever you judge is such
now, i will say, it’s completely understandable that the woman you’re talking about has trouble gendering her abuser correctly, for many reasons you have pointed out, and i think it would have been good for her to have been met with more compassion, since this can be a difficult thing even for people coming from less abusive circumstances
however, i would also note that you are misgendering her abuser, and you have no such defense, so why do you feel like it’s alright to misgender someone because they’re an abuser? you say you’re a staunch defender of LGBTQ rights, but for the reasons i explained above, those actions are not reflective of that ideal
defending this abused woman, in this case, makes a lot of sense. but you have no defense for misgendering her abuser, you were not the one abused, so why are you doing it?
obviously, we can’t control your language. however, free speech is not a guaranteed right, here in this community, and honestly, i would advocate for you to be banned here, too, since it really seems like you care more about your ability to misgender someone because you think they’re bad, rather than recognize that trans people can do bad things, and we can still condemn that (and honestly, insult them and call them bastards or whatever), without having to resort to misgendering them and furthering the normalization of delegitimizing trans people
i long to see the woke sky…
do you game or do other hobbies that keep your hands busy but your ears open? throw up some of those self love affirmation videos off youtube, the ones you’re supposed to listen to while sleeping. i can’t speak for if they work while you sleep, they’d keep me up, but they work great as essentially background noise and help your mood and self compassion improve over time
speaking of yaoi, is there any yaoi out there which doesn’t feature / almost exclusively depict non-consentual / unwanted sex? it’s, quite frankly, a horrible fucking turn off, and i feel like i’ve run into it every time i’ve read any yaoi (not boy’s love)