Do you care if your partner has had a lot of partners before you; does it turn you on that she has had a lot of dick inside her or do you absolutely get sick at the notion of the idea?
Do you care if your partner has had a lot of partners before you; does it turn you on that she has had a lot of dick inside her or do you absolutely get sick at the notion of the idea?
The fact you’re using terms like “body count” indicates a little immaturity.
I’ve only met teens and young adults who care about such things - as you get older, you accrue more and more experiences with other people. It’s unavoidable. People fuck. That’s a wonderful part of life.
If you’re icked that you’re not the first person to be intimate with someone and have an expectation that they should have fewer or zero experiences before you, you need to ask yourself why the fuck does it matter?
If it’s because of the risk of STI/STDs then you should both get tested before you engage in any sexual activity. But that has nothing to do with body count, really, does it? You can have one experience and still get an STD.
If it’s because of something you struggle to articulate, you need to ask yourself if it’s simply an issue with your ego and anxiety that the other person has had more or better experiences before than they have/will have with you.
And personally, nothing gives me the ick more than someone with a fragile ego.
Or zero experience and just a bad blood transfusion or even an open wound getting in contact with blood of an infected person.
Excellent point and further reason to care about your health and get tested regularly (especially between partners).
I agree with the overall point that it doesn’t matter.
I’ll just add/disagree: “body count” is just a phrase to indicate how many people you have slept with, and OP just asked a question, didn’t indicate a position on the matter. I don’t think it indicates immaturity to use a short, easy-to-understand phrase to communicate an idea.
Even if hypothetically immature, I think people may have an emotional reaction even if they agree with all of the above. So I think it’s an interesting question.
“How many people have you killed?”
“What?”
“You know! With your dick!”
It’s so gross.
That’s fair; my experience is it’s something that crops up in chat when younger (I’ve not heard it in conversation with people my own age since the 2000s). Older people don’t really care…
The question being phrased as a Boolean “does it turn you on or make you sick” was quite revealing. Once you’ve been around the block, the option “doesn’t matter” emerges.
Although if the answer is “it turns me on”, you’re going to enjoy life haha.
No, if you read the rest of the post all he talks about is how many “dicks” a girl has had inside of her. He definitely has a clear position, but it’s relative to gender, maybe not number of partners.
Then you should get out more.
Ah, here’s the basis for your previous remark. You are either intentionally twisting the argument or you have some kind of cultural bias showing. There’s relatively few people who identify as men in the United States who care about “first” but there’s quite a few people of any sex or gender who care about being the 50th.
Yes sex feels good but so does eating and many people will absolutely judge those who fall into gluttony because they will not restrain themselves.
Different things interest different people. Some people want an experienced partner who already knows that they’re down for a three way on a balcony in Vegas because they’ve done it. Other people want a less experienced partner so they can experience the excitement of doing something that’s new to both of them. I’ve had and enjoyed both kinds of partners.
For me it’s judgy people who care too much about what other people think or do.
But why restrain? This is what I don’t get. Eating too much has obvious drawbacks. Sex does not.
You only get one life, might as well have as much fun as you can.
I think this stems from the whole ‘sinful’ thing that religions try to push on us. It’s too bad because there’s no need for it. In the middle ages the church was the government and they didn’t want people screwing around when there was no contraception (too much hassle with orphans to take care of). That’s probably why they made a big deal out of it. But anyway I’m not religious so it doesn’t apply to me.
Also there’s the STD thing but everyone I know in the now promiscuous community is checked regularly (I do every 3 months), using condoms and sometimes even PrEP. Also the more obscure vaccines like HPV (can cause nasty cancers these days!)
Anyway I never really made a ‘count’. Because it just doesn’t matter. Probably not much more than 50.
I’m more of the “sex positive” kind. We believe that sex (between consenting adults obviously) is a normal and beneficial human activity and nothing to feel ashamed about 🫶
I was just curious and wanted to know people’s thoughts…calm down.