My (29M) online friend (30’s F) has been flirting with me. She says her only intention is to boot my ego, but the way she is talking to be seems to be more than that. She will constantly message me and ask me to do things with her in game all the time. She also seems to want to know more about me, but any time I try and ask about her, she kind of brushes it off or changes the subject. She spent an entire day telling me that she had a crush on me (for a year??) and everything that she liked about me (the exact list will make this post too long). I really appreciate what she says, but I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster trying to figure out what exactly she wants. I have tried asking her, but it’s usually either ignored or the subject is changed. I do not want to cut ties, because she is an integral part of the group of friends I play with and I don’t want things to be awkward, but I really don’t know how to move forward with this situation. Any advice, even if it’s brutally honest, is welcome.
Jerkface is Canadian and they will get married to be polite take their advice with a grain of salt.
OP did say that she spent “a whole day” telling them she has a crush on them. That’s a little bit more than flirting. One might even call it a bold advance!
What OP needs to do is clarify that he doesn’t want casual flirting to be a part of the relationship, serious inquiries only please.
Also, OP needs to ask real people about their opinions on this and not the weirdos on Lemmy who don’t know anything about the actual people involved.
They are sending strong mixed messages. They are coming close, and then running away. This is a common pattern and it means STAY AWAY.