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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
Your rant got it wrong in the first paragraph. People can socialize with or without hitting on others. Ah well, better luck next time!
My autistic rant started out longer and with more context. I cut it down and perhaps too aggressively. I was mainly talking about guys who specifically are less inclined to socialize than to stay home. Which is clearly a lot of people in general, not just hetero-guys.
That is, some hetero men generally only go out with a specific goal or reason to go out and socialize outside of socializing itself because they don’t find that on its own naturally a good enough reason, other than maintaining basic sanity/avoiding cabin fever.
Generally speaking hetero women have different requirements that don’t necessitate consistent socialization or even social skills so if they’re naturally a home-body and barely get out this probably wont be an issue for them dating-wise. If a woman is having issues dating, the advice given is almost never “you need to touch grass more”.
My own context: These days I do enjoy socializing for its own sake. Maybe a little too much considering how expensive it can be… However, I am an autistic guy and I used to think I was straight. I generally spent most of my early adult life staying home playing video games, working, and not otherwise socializing at all for like 5 years of my life like some kind of hermit. Thinking for that things would just work out magically for some reason in terms of romantic relationships for me. So I kind of have some understanding of this particular mentality. I only really got into socializing and “touching grass” originally to find a woman. If I had not had that goal originally I probably would have stayed predominately a loner. Its fortunate that I ended up enjoying being a socialite for its own sake anyway, but not every guy does.