Has the system finally cracked? Have the wealthy and powerful simply taken so much leaving the rest of us grasping at our very survival, easily manipulated into turning against other groups and even each other in an attempt to make sense of it all? Is society destined to destroy itself or descend into eternal servitude to our masters? How do we get out of this spiral of madness?
We’re humans. The end is always near, we’ve spent the last dozen eons or more basically failing upwards and constantly surviving the disasters we subject ourselves to. We’re the funniest act this side of the Milky Way, and it’s not going to stop just because we’re starting to notice what a mess we are.
All of history was a shitshow. There was not one century this side of the invention of agriculture where we didn’t commit war crimes. Hell, it took us thousands of years to come up with the idea of war crimes, the very idea that killing and enslaving everyone and salting their earth might not be super cool.
We suck, but it has worked out so far. Humanity is like cockroaches. We’ll manage. Badly, suffering, but we’ll manage.
Try to see humans the way elephants see us. We’re just these silly little fellas, you know?
So there’s no hope that we collectively decide that we need to get out of this together?
If you want the world to be some kind of way, your best hope is to be that kind of way and hope it catches on. Get yourself to a better place. If you’re keeping company with people who aren’t onboard with that, it will hold you back.
I don’t live in that world. I have too many issues for any of that to work, but even if that weren’t the case I probably couldn’t travel to wherever would be better for me.
Imma break out some tough love on ya.
That’s learned helplessness, loser talk. “Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen.” That quote is about an attitude, not intrinsic qualities or abilities.
More failure talk. You make do with what’s in front of you. Dragging your body through space isn’t going to change you. Greener grass and whatnot.
I’m no psychologist, no idea how to break you out of this failure mode, but you really need help to cut that shit out. You got one shot at life, no more, go make shit happen for yourself. And if you’re already typing a reply full of excuses, you already lost.
So your advice to people who can’t afford rent, work a fulltime job and have just had their tent and all their possessions thrown in a dumpster for the second time this month is what exactly?
Do you advise someone who is incarcerated that if they simply ignore the bars they will no longer be there?
Ah yes, walk it off. Very helpful. Do you think real issues don’t exist? Especially in the US now?
“If you feel like shit, just grind bro”. Doing what, exactly? Lots of options are oversaturated or having layoffs. Rent is a racket and there are people who work full-time “essential” jobs (like professors and nurses) living in their car. I cannot even afford nor do I want a car, and if I was living outside where I’m at I’d be at risk for heat stroke because my body cannot sweat enough for even mild heat. Also, I am nearly nowhere.
I can prepare and sauté vegetables, sweep, carry things, do various computer things. Is that enough to live off of? Even at my best, probably not! Could I maybe work something out with people? I’m a shut-in with the social skills of a rock, so that’s not likely either. EDIT: forgot to say bike riding, but again that’s also difficult with heat
Have I already lost? Yeah maybe, but the issues (both internal and external) are more than excuses. It if got me out of here I’d be a shitty cook on a boat (I also probably can’t swim, no ID/passport) but it doesn’t work like that anymore. Solo projects and crowd-funding are just as delusional.
You’ve been dealt a really rough hand. The way it should work is that your community would see that you mean well and want to contribute, and support an ongoing effort to make that happen.
We don’t live in the world of should, but imo you do need a community of any kind. I don’t think I’m exaggerating when I say it should be your top priority to make at least one IRL friend and making the absolute most of it. They don’t have to be perfect, but they do have to reciprocate the friendship.
Once you have one, it’s easier to make more. Everything is easier with a community. Keep a journal, write about your efforts, write about the people you might try to talk to. Try anything. There’s a loneliness epidemic out there, so chances are good there are people just like you who are waiting for someone to make the first move. I hope you find each other.
And there we have it. The predicted list of excuses.
Can you not see how making excuses is no way to live the one life you’ll ever get?! Can you imagine a counselor saying, yeah, that’s normal, you should probably give up and die, soonest best?!
I’ve had a lot going both for me and against me in this life. But I never fucking said “can’t”. I’ve lost much, won much, but I’ve never rolled up in a ball and cried that I was helpless. Your attitude is so self-defeating it makes me sad. You need counseling and don’t seem to know it.
I do what I can, I have my ups and downs too. You did better, good for you… maybe if we swapped you could fix my life, or maybe it’s just an anecdote and there is no way to tell.
Yeah, I know I need a lot of things (including healthcare and therapy) but healthcare is a mess here especially rural and if I could use any programs now (especially with waiting lists etc) I expect said access will be cut before needed follow-ups are done.
You can pin the blame on mentality all you like, but it doesn’t make the country any less of multiple unmitigated disasters.
What a mess, I’m sorry. Can I just say that guy doesn’t speak for me? Let me know if you’re not sick of the conversation.
Oh heavens, no.
Just listen to @Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world