Hi everyone… this is incredibly embarrassing to even write, and I’m feeling really shy about sharing something so personal, but I’m truly at a loss and hoping for some kind understanding. I was wondering if… well, if something like an estrous cycle could ever be understood, or even officially noted, based on past symptoms and especially this… unique scent that seems to happen during it. It feels like it comes around quite often, maybe every week or two, and usually lasts for at least two or three days.
I feel like I should probably share a little more background, just in case it helps to understand…
Ever since I was quite young, maybe even my early teens, I’ve had this really unusual cycle. It happens for two or three days, about once a week or every other week, and during that time, my whole body just feels intensely, overwhelmingly aroused. It’s so much more significant than anything I’ve heard of, and if I don’t… well, if I don’t address it, it just keeps building, feeling worse and worse.
If I just let it go without doing anything, my body will actually start to tremble quite severely, almost like it’s seizing up. But if I do… if I do take care of it, there’s this really deep, almost euphoric primal feeling, like a strong desire for procreation and closeness. It’s so powerful, I’ve even found myself just… watching it happen, if that makes sense.
And my partner, he’s so sweet, says my scent during these times is really… well, “drawing” and “seductive.” But it’s so mortifying, because I can tell even random people somehow notice it, and I just get so embarrassed. I’m desperate to know if there’s any way to gently lessen how often this happens, or what I could possibly do to manage it?
I’ve tried looking into common things like arousal disorders or other issues, but nothing quite seems to fit my situation perfectly. I just don’t know what to think… or do.
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If this odor is limited to your genital area, it’s certainly unusual but unlikely to be noticeable to anyone not in an intimate or clinical physical proximity to you (in both cases that’s socially acceptable). I personally experienced fluctuations in my genital odor (both strength and characteristics of the odor) that coincided with my menstrual cycle when I was younger. I even asked an intimate partner if they noticed any odor at a normal distance, and they reassured me that they could only smell that in intimate situations. So it was worth asking!
If it’s an overall body odor that you’re finding difficult to control with a reasonable level of personal hygiene, it’s both unusual and grounds for medical examination since it could affect you socially.
Even if neither of the above are true, if it’s something causing you psychological distress (you sound at least somewhat uncomfortable overall, despite enjoying [as is your right] its effects on your partner) it’s worth speaking with a doctor about it. Even if they conclude this is within the normal spectrum of human sexual hormone cycles and no treatment action is needed, the reassurance of hearing that from a clinician is worth it. There’s also the possibility that something is abnormal (or normal but worth treating anyway for your comfort), and then you’ll be on track to figuring out how to manage it.
Yess… Recently I was just attending class… someone walked up son me and asked if I wanted to have intimacy… it happens every time.
Some would argue it’s sending me into a dangerous place because I’d procreation with nearly anyone. And my pleasure and mental state last longer than body so many cause damage…
This sounds like it’s causing you to feel stressed and out of control, so I definitely recommend seeing a doctor. Even if nothing is physically abnormal it should help you to feel that someone is listening to your concerns and can give you advice and guidance.
I’ve told doctors about my worries that were much more minor, and when I apologized for “bothering them” they reassured me. They reminded me that it’s their job to answer those kinds of questions, and it’s always better to ask than to not say anything.