I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.
Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.
I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.
Yes, that’s what I was referring to, it’s not exclusively women who’ve had good relationships with their fathers, some go for their aggressive and violent father’s look-alike.
Daughters marry their dads equivalents. (But only if they are in a good relationship to their fathers).
Many, many victims of domestic abuse would disagree, I’m sure!
Would you say that domeatic abuse victims have good relations with their abusive parents?
what did you expect?
I think they were saying that “good relationship with dad” isn’t a prerequisite for “marrying a dad-alike,” that sometimes “bad relationship with dad” also gets “married to dad-alike,” they’re just both bad guys in the latter case.
Like, a woman who’s dad beat her/mom as a child can grow up to marry a husband who also beats her/their child too, and in that way she has married someone like her dad.
I don’t think they were claiming that being abusive is good, nor do I think that’s the general consensus on blahaj.
Agreed. Maybe I didn’t think about all possible variants of my introductory statement.
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Yes, that’s what I was referring to, it’s not exclusively women who’ve had good relationships with their fathers, some go for their aggressive and violent father’s look-alike.