Well yeah, no shit, Sherlock. Abuse causes mental health problems. How is this news?

No, no one is saying it’s the same as rape itself. That’s a strawman. And look at her post:

It was three years ago now when my daughter who was 19 at the time was arrested.

Let’s just forget for a moment that it’s pretty easy to figure out if something is AI-generated. AI wasn’t creating photorealistic pornography three years ago. And she was arrested three years ago. Means, there was an investigation before that. And usually people don’t get caught right at the beginning, so we can assume this whole thing started well over three years ago. Also, OP never even mentioned pedophilia, so that’s just another strawman.

So if someone is raped and the whole thing is filmed, it’s completely OK to just pass that footage around, so long as you didn’t rape the person yourself? The victim of said rape has no say in that?

Definitely. And honestly, don’t wait. I don’t know where you live, but it can often take forever to get mental healthcare if it’s not an “urgent case” (a fairly high bar to pass), so get started now. When I was in a very difficult situation I wish I had gotten help earlier (even though I can’t really blame myself, but that’s a whole other can of worms).

“Finally, are you sure she was never a victim of abuse?”

Yes, she wasn’t particularly active in her younger years. I monitored everyone she spoke to online and she never had any boyfriends/girlfriends.

That honestly doesn’t mean much. Abuse can come from many sources. In many cases, the abuse comes from a family member. It also doesn’t have to be sexual abuse, it could also be physical or mental abuse. And the person not being particularly active doesn’t change much. In fact, it could make it easier for the abuser to keep things under wraps.

That being said, an abusive past is not an excuse for what she did, but more of something that can help understand the situation from a therapeutic perspective and help preventative efforts.

No, it’s not a success for the abused, that’s for sure. For the abuser though, they often feed on their victim in a way. The abuser generally uses their victim to regulate their own emotions. So for the abuser, it’s a success, even though everyone else loses.

That’s what I was trying to get at with saying I’m not referring to manipulative jerks - the kind you find on r/niceguys. Because they aren’t nice. Yeah, that’s not how life works. And that’s fucked up, which is my point, and goes to show that yes, nice guys often do finish last, even though that statement has been given a bad reputation by places like r/niceguys. Being nice, carrying and loving is an inherently good quality, that we want to see in people. So when it gives you a disadvantage while dating, giving the advantage to the abusive asshole, then you start wondering what the hell is wrong with the world (among many other things). I try to be my best self - regardless of the whole dating thing - because I find it important to be someone with a strong moral compass, who cares for people. We already have enough selfish assholes on this planet and I refuse to be one, even if that does negatively affect other parts of my life. But man, does it get frustrating. And how does that mean “I’m doing it wrong”? I’ve lived abuse. I know how horrific it is. Why would it not be being my best self to help other abuse victims get out of their abusive situations and help them improve their lives when I can?