nickwitha_k (he/him)

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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • Personally, I block pretty much all exclusionary communities for a few reasons:

    • I frequently do not see the community name before looking at a thread and finding something interesting to converse on, partly because of my neurodivergences. This leads to breaking rules without intending to. Safer to block.

    • I sometimes have experienced RSD as a symptom of my neurodivergences and thus intentionally take action to prevent it.

    • I value inclusivity and anarchic social organization as fundamental parts of my ethical framework and find social exclusion based upon a person’s immutable traits incredibly offensive (the intensity of this is definitely related to my neurodivergences as well).

    This is not to say that I don’t believe that women deserve a space where they have control and agency, especially with the immense amounts of misogyny on the Internet and meatspace. Nor do they need to consider my feelings nor any other man’s when deciding their rules and whether to be inclusive or exclusive.

    I do, however, think that the hard-line exclusionary practices diminish the perspective, both for the participants and for men who could definitely use the insights into the bullshit that women have to continue to deal with. Lots of missed opportunity to build understanding and strengthen allyship. It also makes it easier for toxic exclusionary ideologies, like TERFs to take root (every group excluded makes it easier to excuse excluding another) while also preventing people who have not discovered their feminine gender identities from participating in conversation with other women in ways that could help them to uncover important things about themselves.

    Anyway, enjoy and I hope that you find your space helpful to you, regardless of what myself out any other man feels about it. If the community does become inclusive, I’d definitely like to to know so that I can unblock it.