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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • In my experience, the matching part doesn’t really mean anything other than the conversation between the two of you is now possible. Both of you need to participate in that conversation. And it needs to go well if it means you’ll have a date. The statistics are not great for men, and nothing is organic about the process, so you just have to protect your feelings and understand that if they don’t talk to you, or if it doesn’t go well, it can be for any number of reasons.

    Try your best to not get frustrated, because each individual person is doing their own thing, it’s not you versus all potential matches. You are you. They are them. It just doesn’t work out sometimes




  • I’m playing through hollow Knight for the first time! I have always enjoyed Metroid and most of Castlevania, and with the silk song hype I felt it was time. I have no idea how far along I am, I don’t suspect very far based on how full my inventory screen is. And I’m using the strategy of “re explore old areas once you learn a new move”, which is working okay, but I’m getting a little annoyed by how much back tracking I’m doing. I want to find the map for the jellyfish area, but I can’t get past this black barrier.

    There are fun optional platforming areas that remind me of Celeste. Now if I only I had unlimited tries like she did. And the boss battles are challenging and punishing in a way that reminds me of elden ring - everyone has a pattern, and they will hurt you if you are too greedy with your attacks.

    Overall I recommend it if you enjoy Metroidvanias




  • Growing up, I was always described with words like “spontaneous” or “spastic”. I would feel a grasp of content in school but absolutely no interest in doing whatever I deemed as “busy work”, including homework. I turned into a very mid student even through college.

    After college, I got a full time job but with no real direction or aim towards anything. I was discouraged by a bad economy and always having bad feelings with interviews. Eventually I found a job in tech, and started applying myself and found that I could write software as a career, and feel mostly good at the end of the day.

    It wasnt until COVID, and working from home with my wife, that I noticed how different we are about our ability to context-switch from chit-chatting and generally being social to actual productive work. I eventually broke down crying and we made changes so that I would be left mostly alone. Talking about these encounters with my therapist I eventually was told that I meet the symptoms of ADHD. Soon after I got tests and it the diagnosis was confirmed.

    While things have gotten better (being able to put a name to it, and having sources of knowledge to read in has been helpful), it hasnt been a night and day difference from before. I can still get distracted, and I still have to protect my ability to focus. Most of what has been helpful is more around trying to manage my energy and mental state (sleep, proper diet, taking breaks, exercise, etc), and then trying to understand and identify when I am more likely to struggle with focusing