Context is everything. Yeah, your wife of 10 years deserves the face to face, more than once. A dude I dated for a few months that showed no emotional intelligence specifically told me he’d prefer a text. I obliged when I realized it wasn’t going anywhere and I didn’t want to keep up a casual relationship. He then asked to talk in person, though, and I again obliged.
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kofe@lemmy.worldto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Everybody talks about beliefs like they're this big important thing.English2·29 days agoSpeak for yourself, please. I am willing to change my beliefs with new information. Unless you have evidence of an asteroid heading toward our planet or whatever, I’ll stick with what I do know.
Again, faith means belief without evidence. You have every indication the sun will be fine, the earth will be fine, etc.
I’M WORKING WITH SOME VERY UNSTABLE HERRRRBSSS
kofe@lemmy.worldto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Everybody talks about beliefs like they're this big important thing.English4·1 month agoKnowledge is built on justified, true beliefs. I know and believe the sun will rise tomorrow. You can believe shit on faith, or lack of evidence, but I’d disagree if someone claims to “know” gods or ghosts exist and ask for their evidence.
kofe@lemmy.worldto Lord Of The Rings Memes@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Therapists KNOW the answer, they just REFUSE to TELL USEnglish9·1 month agoAnd they should refuse! It creates a dependency when what you deserve is to learn or validate that you are capable 💖
kofe@lemmy.worldto Movies@lemmy.world•I've never seen a Wes Anderson film. Where do I start?English3·1 month agoNo mention of Moonrise Kingdom!? I finally got around to watching Asteroid City recently and enjoyed it
Oxytocin is a big one, but I’m struggling to remember the others. I remember that one cuz of a psych class where the professor brought it up as an event that mothers would associate as having some of the highest levels of it. Its considered the bonding hormone, so makes sense we’d bond with our babies so drastically to keep us motivated to care for them after they ripped our lower body apart lol
kofe@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Nearly 800 infant remains found in septic tank at nun-run Irish unwed mother and baby homeEnglish41·2 months agoWith Catholics you’re supposed to confess to a priest, but same difference to them, basically
Perhaps a duck wearing cat ears
Woman here in my mid 30s. I went through a few rough relationships, and in the last longterm one shifted my mindset from “of course I’ll have kids” to “I won’t put my body through that”
Since leaving that relationship, being in and out of therapy, and meeting someone that made me feel love in a way I didn’t think was possible, I’ve changed my mind back. I’d be fine with it if it never happened, but there’s something incredibly romantic about it to me. Being in such a vulnerable state where I’d need help but be supported. Putting my body through that, then having a common goal in raising them as a team.
kofe@lemmy.worldto Explain Like I'm Five@lemmy.world•Why shouldn't justice be punitive?English13·2 months agoI want to preempt this by apologizing if you are a victim yourself, or at least say I don’t speak for all victims. That said, threatening violence - unless as immediate defense - is not moral within my view. I’ve been raped and had loved ones violently murdered. I would not wish pain on those responsible. I want them to understand and grow as people. Maybe it will never happen, and I can accept that. I can’t accept loosening my moral standards and sinking to their level.
Sequestering them from society is more preferable. Requiring therapy. Community service.
I’ve been in therapy off and on for years. One piece of advice a therapist gave me that I’ll never forget is to never stop being an idealist.
I would not be surprised if my chonker baby figured that out and waited until the old lady had hers dispensed then bullied her out of the way. Anyone have tips for preventing that?
kofe@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•the jackdaw whispers 'get a mullet'English3·2 months agoI rarely brush mine aside from maybe once a month or so before washing, which I do once a week. I’m not the most active, though. If I have it down when outside with lots of wind or something it might get tangled, but that’s a good sign for a trim for me, too
kofe@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•the jackdaw whispers 'get a mullet'English10·2 months agoThey almost always look great except when they don’t
I’ve tried so many times. Got it right once or twice but something usually goes horribly wrong. Ive given up in favor of the mermaid hair cuz it adds insulation when its cold and I’ll toss it up in a bun when its hot
I think thats somewhat demonstrated, but its possible the power corrupts and brings those traits out, too
Pepperoni, no sausage, dont give a fuck if pineapple touches my sauces
Would make sense since new parents lacking sleep struggle a bit
I’m reading it as a joke like “yeah sure, a guy named Jesus was born to a virgin and rose from the dead”- which is about as likely as Peter getting bit by a radioactive spider and swinging from skyscrapers with his webs. Has nothing to do with whether either are influential on society. Of course they both are to varying degrees. One is treated like Greek, Egyptian, or Incan gods or priests or whatever comparison you think best maintains the spiritual elements. The other more like Santa, where kids believe it only so long as their peers and adults play along.
Imo, as long as we move forward as a society eventually to recognize the mystical parts are bullshit, who cares. Humanity collectively still seems to be in Santa stage wanting miracles to exist.
Carrying a coconut?
I wonder how much the adoption of newer platforms has a lot to do with having money to advertise. I feel like I lucked out a bit finding lemmy when reddit had the 3rd party apps shut down, just stumbling on a comment before it was deleted. Whereas if the commenter had paid for it to be an advertisement it may have stayed up