the only way you get money is by randomly scattered gigs in between… you got a tip on your uber eats delivery! treat yourself to a breakfast.

i was driven by an uber driver yesterday who seriously thought cycling should be illegal.

his rationale was that bicycles are “unregistered vehicles and so if they cause accident who is going to pay?!” when i pointed out that probably they should pay just as anyone else he just dismissed it like this: “that is not possible. if a cyclist crashes into me and kills me who is gonna pay me?!” i was speechless after that.

only one way to find out

nice metaphore to how people use the social media nowdays… they spill their mind into a public discussion forum and then they are pissed at the “reply guy problem” and try to come up with ways to stop people from talking instead of adjusting their expectations… i get it - everyone wants to be treated nicely but come on!

you are technically right… but, i mean… comments like this are the reason why this is not a place for any serious discussion. you just have to find any crack or disambiguity to attack and destroy anyone you disagree with, don’t you?

Do you think them having kids would change that perspective?

yes, i do. i don’t doubt there are some actual abusive parents out there but many more of the conflicts between kids and their parents is caused by the kids having their child perspective. and sadly, mentally developing to the point where the understand what their parents are going through typically takes longer than it takes for the relationship to be destroyed. therefore it is mostly up to the parents to keep it together but they are just people. and their kids talking shit with other kids about them surely does not help…

those people clearly don’t have kids of their own.

the mom is not “having beef” with you kid, she’s lost her life and her mind and cracked.

and the dad was on his third mental breakdown that day looking for anything to rationalize why he’s hyperventilating.

it was not the kids fault and any parent taking it out on their own kid is fucked, but they are not irrational monsters either.

I went through depression before and I got out successfully. I know where I am and I know what I need to do to get out. I recognise that the biggest problem is self-delusion and all the cognitive biases that make me feel miserable and powerless… there is also a difference between subjective and objective reality.

I also tried a few dead ends on my journey and I can confidently tell you that the thing you wrote above is not only not helpful, but can be harmful to people that are in a bad place and cannot see through it. People that don’t know any better and spew bullshit like this (or worse, drank their own kool aid) are one of the reasons why it is so hard to get better in a world we have… so cool T-shirt bro, have a nice day!

mhm… and what if you just had a kid and moved away from helping family to a country which thinks that paid medical leave or reasonable parental leave are luxuries not worth having? have you ever tried to get more than 3h of sleep in a row while taking care of a newborn? good luck going for a run after that! if it also happens to be a winter you may need to wait until spring for that sunlight too. good that we at least have parental groups to socialize… unless you are stay at home dad that is, cause trying to talk about restarting your career after the break might not sit well in a group that mostly connects on how their childbirth went…