Movies, tv shows, browsing the internet, reading a book, playing an instrument. Honestly, making a complicated dinner is how I fill a lot of weekend afternoon / weekends, and when I feel like having a drink while doing it, I usually just get a non-alcoholic wine or beer, it fills that fun vibe without making me feel like shit later.

This sounds a bit related to David Graeber’s concept of “Bullshit Jobs”.

Honestly, desire is a justification on its own. If you have limited resources, then it’s really about whether you can afford to prioritize those desires or not. For those with enough money, desire is enough of a reason to justify a purchase.

Without enough money, the question is whether the desire outweighs other more practical ways that money could be spent. When I was depressed sometimes I would make irrational spending choices because it helped me feel good and even helped me pretend I was not as poor as I actually was, by spending the money irrationally I could create the illusion of having more money than I had. This was a dangerous game, though.

That all makes sense, desiring looking at something beautiful or attractive.

Re envy: that’s interesting, so you would like to be able to be like women in that you would like to be able to be beautiful, delicate, desirable and so on?

I think some men can be considered beautiful and desirable - I’m sure women would describe men like Pedro Pascal as being beautiful and desirable 😅 But I hear what you mean that in general women are seen as desired and men as the one desiring, in a sense. I think that’s largely social, though I do think estrogen does create traits that we might see as beautiful, such as soft skin, for example.

I guess I wonder if you have any examples of beautiful, delicate, or desirable men, and whether you would prefer to be that, or if you could press a button if you would just choose to have been born a woman instead?

That’s interesting, why do you think in video games you want to play a pretty character that can wear gorgeous outfits?

Izzard identifies as genderfluid[94][95] and calls herself “somewhat boy-ish and somewhat girl-ish”.[18] She uses the word “transgender” as an umbrella term.[96] When asked in 2019 what pronouns she preferred, Izzard responded, “either ‘he’ or ‘she’” and explained, “If I am in boy mode, then ‘he’, or girl mode, ‘she’”.[97] In 2020, she requested she/her pronouns for an appearance on the TV show Portrait Artist of the Year and said she wants “to be based in girl mode from now on”.[98] In March 2023, she announced that she would begin using the name Suzy in addition to Eddie, saying that she is “going to be Suzy Eddie Izzard”.[2][1] Explaining that she had wanted to use the name Suzy since she was 10 years old, she added that people “can choose” which name they want to use to refer to her,[1][2] and that she would keep using Eddie Izzard as her public name since it is more widely recognised.[99]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eddie_Izzard#Personal_life

for the lazy ^

Have you ever worn women’s clothes outside that, or wanted to? How has it felt if you did?

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What do you already have on hand? What tools and materials?

If you had a cinderblock, log, car-jack, or other heavy / sturdy item, you could use that to rest the sofa on temporarily while you work on it. Since it’s a sofa, you could even just tip the sofa on one of its sides (if there is room). Even a stack of books could work, assuming nobody sits on the sofa or uses it (which is a good idea while it’s being repaired). Either way, you probably don’t need to buy something to rest the sofa on.

In terms of re-attaching the leg to the sofa, it depends on what you are working with, whether there is a way to screw something into the leg. Imagining a wooden leg, I could imagine drilling a hole into the leg and into the sofa, then driving a wooden dowel into the leg and putting wood glue into the hole and around the dowel and then softly tapping the leg into the hole you made into the sofa - the dowel going in the hole, I mean. Sometimes screws can be driven in at angles, or you can make or use brackets that screw into both.

it would help if you could clarify what you mean by wobbly or buzzy … maybe some examples of songs or segments that have the sound you’re describing?

is this song wobbly or buzzy?

Might also x-post to !dadforaminute@lemmy.world if you don’t get responses here.

yeah, I think it might have been an oversight - after acquisitions there is a lot of chaos and sometimes there are periods where HR is disrupted and things slip through the cracks. In this case, the software that manages your information allowed me to change from my residential address to a PO box and no one ever brought it up.

I work for a corporate multinational conglomerate that very much is not laissez faire 😅

I use my passport and social security for ID, neither have my residential address on them. It’s only on my state-issued driver’s license, which I don’t use for ID.

I gave my employer my PO box address, that’s what they have.

and also that you don’t have to give away the location of where you live to everyone who needs to send you mail or a package …, including your employer

I guess the stageists were right, liberalism always does come next. (\s)

Yet they don’t revoke the use of puberty blockers for cis children with precocious puberty, they only are concerned about the lack of data for trans kids - it’s motivated by transphobia, not actual clinical concerns.

Trans kids aren’t having poor outcomes from gender affirming care, quite the opposite actually - and the “we don’t have enough data” argument is a false concern used to plausibly deny a more than sufficiently demonstrated clinically safe and effective treatment.

EDIT: might be interested in reading: https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

We should be clear, the medical establishment is not woke (quite the contrary, actually) nor is every single major medical association recommending gender affirming care for trans youth on ideological grounds or because they have been forced to by some LGBT+ lobbying, but because the evidence we have points to that care being life saving and effective while also being low risk and in the case of puberty blockers even reversible.

EDIT2: you should also know the Cass Review has been found to be biased in its recommendations, e.g. this demand for high evidence in the case of trans care but not other areas of care have been pointed out as motivated by prejudice, might be worth reading more about the criticisms of the Cass Review:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cass_Review#Reception_by_academics_and_researchers

Several scholars and organisations have criticised the Cass Review’s conclusions and the evidence base used to support them. Researchers Cal Horton and Ruth Pearce have said of the Cass Review, “its most controversial recommendations are based on prejudice rather than evidence”. Cal Horton criticised the Interim Report and other documents for prioritising research on aetiology of trans identities, saying: “Research into the causation of trans identities has a pathologized history, running parallel to efforts to prevent or cure transness.” Cal Horton also criticised the Interim Report’s support of exploratory therapy and its use of the terminology of “desistance”.

Various scholars also criticised the emphasis on high and moderate quality evidence, saying that paediatric care often relies on low quality evidence in other areas; that in downgrading qualitative research, the patient voice was minimised; and that the highest quality evidence (such as from randomised controlled trials) may be difficult or unethical to obtain in this area.

Forcing trans kids to undergo the wrong puberty under the demands double-blind trials is as wrong as forcing a cis child to undergo the wrong puberty for the same purpose (like David Reimer was forced to), it’s an unreasonable expectation given the clinical context of the treatment being so low risk and the outcomes being so positive.

oh that’s awesome - and I can now confirm too, I clicked !WomensStuff@lazysoci.al from the Voyager App and it took me to the new community just fine:

ah, as far as I know Voyager doesn’t support PieFed yet, only Lemmy - so you might have to use a different app that supports both, or use the web. Sorry for the inconvenience - hopefully Voyager will support PieFed soon 🤞