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Cake day: September 2nd, 2023

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  • You don’t owe anybody anything, just survival and freedom for yourself and that’s it. You can take care of others only after you are safe and content.

    To give an analogy, in case of an airline emergency, you put your mask on first before you help others. You are only responsible for yourself and not others. But if you are all set, then sure you may help others and it is encouraged that you do, but not a responsibility.



  • Of course we’ve heard of bookmarks! Infact we used to use them a whole lot back when we were young. We really started quite organized, but as life changes over the years and decades, bookmarks become irrelevant or lost or unmanageable. You have multiple machines that died, multiple phones lost or abandoned, multiple browsers that you have here and there.

    And yet, bookmarking a tab requires that I apply immediate effort in deciding how to organize this tab for eternity and within the framework of the rest of my bookmarks so I’m able to retrieve this bookmark should I need to in the future and yet keep the entire collection relatively clutter free. So again it’s all so much effort for not much gain.

    Lastly, I still need to clarify an important point is that keeping a tab open is like keeping it open in your head - like a neuron in your brain holding that important information should you need it. It’s like a jigsaw piece waiting for the rest of the pieces while you are constantly problem solving and not wasting time in pointless organization. One day those those jigsaw puzzles will click together. Trust me, I’m a professional problem solver ;)


  • fakir@lemm.eeto2meirl4meirl@lemmy.world2meirl4meirl
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    2 months ago

    Depression is when one has a conflict within. Might even be multiple conflicts. The only way out is for that conflict to be acknowledged, understood, & resolved. And it takes isolation and quiet to understand the self and that inner conflict. At least that has been my experience. Sure therapy and drugs and treatment and friends might help feel better or even pinpoint the conflict for you, but that’s like telling someone what electricity feels like, i.e. it’s not something that can be told, it’s only something that can be felt and realized for oneself.


  • Closing a tab requires that I apply immediate effort in deciding that I’m never going down this path ever again till the end of time, and yet I risk future regret if I ever want to reference a closed tab. So much effort for so little gain - tidiness for the sake of it. If you become cool with clutter, then these open tabs are different pieces that help understand and solve bigger picture problems.

    Across all my machines and browsers, I think I might have over 10k tabs that I’ve opened but never closed.









  • fakir@lemm.eetoAutism@lemmy.worldDaily
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    3 months ago

    Replace shame with self love, don’t feel guilty, be kind and forgiving of self, we don’t know it, but when we’re procrastinating, deeper calculations are happening on the risk reward trade-off of said task, reordering of priorities is happening (you will find joy and freedom of utmost importance), granular processing of the environment and system definition is happening, problem solving is happening, there’s a lot going on, all in the background, you can only accept it, feeling guilty or mad is so pointless that’s why it becomes exhausting.