They found him

It’s a joke…

For sure native forbs can attract more. Its not an either or, but rather a both situation. Pollinator friendly Forbs where you can and clover within your turf lawn. I personally also have been adding self-heal (mild successfully) and creeping thyme (not that successfully) into my lawn. Its a move on all front situation in my yard

The national guard here is looking around for men in black masks in front of computers throughout the city. Its crazy

I just and to add in here that supporting your non-native bees with clover is still worthwhile. Clovers can be a good add on if you want a traditional lawn

I was just saying that telling someone to stop eating only liver and kidneys and instead eat something green to cure their gout would likely get you labeled a witch.

Why does your ice taste so odd?

Don’t forget that in the 14th century if you fixed what the doctor couldn’t diagnoses you are called a witch. Usually by telling people to eat their vegetables instead of live entirely off of organ meat

First off, thank you for ejaculating responsibility. If more men ejaculated as responsibly as you the world would be a better place. You might be on the young side but vasectomies’ are now reversible with a 90%+ rate. So freeze some sperm for a decade or so if you are really worried about it. So you have some options if you want kids in the future.

I think its less about people living in the city and more general light pollution. Light pollution spreads a lot further than you think even for places you think are a full starry night sky. I know in my own life, the difference from my urban house, to a more rural cabin is huge, but the jump from that rural cabin to the middle of Boundary Waters Canoe Area is also huge. I assume if I ever get a chance to go to an International Dark Sky Place there will be another large jump.

Agreed. I want to be to join them together. The only real difficulty will be for comments. How do they get federated between different instances

I remember in high school we had before school weight lifting which started so early. So start with that, do a full day of class, after school sports and then homework before doing it again. Pretty crazy how many things were crammed in a day.

You go GIRL

The main thing I recommend is having house plants. They will filter out things in the air and will add additional oxygen which to our noises make things smell cleaner. I would also recommend cleaning more often especially your floors. We use Florida water whenever we clean our floors which lingers in in the air for days. We also leave bounce sheets under our garbage bag in our closed garbage can it captures the main source of bad odors for a house. We also use incense sticks in our bedroom which smells great. In the winter when the house gets very stinky and stale we like to set up a simmer pot. Its basically just a boiling pot filled with good smelling spices, fruits, and / or spices. It also humidifies the house which is great.

There are some fresh baked breads that I enjoy a few days after baking (basically sourdoughs) that are reheated to get warm and crispy again. But I agree. If I could have perfectly timed baked breads I would be so happy.

According to The Journal of Sex Research in 2017 :

Paraphilic sexual interests are defined as unusual or anomalous, but their actual occurrence in nonclinical samples is still unknown. This study looked at desire for and experience of paraphilic behaviors in a sample of adult men and women in the general population. A secondary goal was to compare the results of two survey modes—traditional landline telephone versus online. A total of 1,040 persons classified according to age, gender, education, ethnic background, religious beliefs, area of residency, and corresponding to the norm for the province of Quebec were interviewed. Nearly half of this sample expressed interest in at least one paraphilic category, and approximately one-third had had experience with such a practice at least once. Voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, and masochism interested both male and female respondents at levels above what is usually considered to be statistically unusual (15.9%). Interestingly, levels of interest in fetishism and masochism were not significantly different for men and women. Masochism was significantly linked with higher satisfaction with one’s own sexual life. As expected, the online mode generated more acknowledgment of paraphilic interest than the telephone mode. These results call into question the current definition of normal (normophilic) versus anomalous (paraphilic) sexual behaviors. (Emphasis mine)

I would say that nearly half would be common enough. Ignore a common desires just leads repression, shame and for people to seek out these desires in more dangerous locations and situations usually without consent. Those who are honest about what they want get to do this with willing partners in specifically time constrained way. This is not controlling anyone outside those situations or pretending that God says all women are submissive to men.

I would also like mention that most kink and BDSM books by professions and those in the scene will discourage the use of choking by anyone in all situations. They will go into exquisite details about to safely flog a man safe and then say how choking is dangerous and shouldn’t be done. So don’t say that BDSM is choking because that is generally frowned upon (although this is still debated).

Thinking about BDSM (Sadism and Machosism specifically) as violence is missing the point and thinking about it the wrong context. There a many different ritualized and formalized pain rituals that we practice as a society. Something like a marathon, cross fit, sitting for tattoos are other modern example where people voluntarily go through pain for a set period of time for fun and to see if they can do it. These are all acceptable hobbies where pain is a large portion of why people do it. Not to mention that multitude of religious rituals where someone goes through something difficult or painful in a specific context. Its the sex negativity in the cultural that says if someone may get an erection or wet thinking about this pain where we draw the line.

I think what this is pointing out is that those who want to abuse will find a system that gives them systematic power to abuse. So these people will be naturally drawn to systems where they have power and a support system to protect them. So its a self selecting group who are looking to abuse are drawn to system with strong hierarchical structures.

If you are interested in unlearning paternalistic relationship structures I would recommend you read / listen to Dan Savage. He does a weekly sex and relationship columns since the 1990 and a podcast since the early 2000s so he has been doing this a long time so has a great backlog of material most of which is free. Especially since you are young and want some outsider perspective.

He talks often about alternative sexualities (queer, kink, etc.) and relationships structures (polyamory, open relationships, female led relationships, etc.) which might not be applicable to you. I know you mentioned that you are NOT into BDSM but understanding how common and acceptable doing something like that it makes what you are asking into context. Its the same tools around consent and communication about needs regardless of what you are doing. Listening and understanding the extreme level sexual acts will put your asks into perspective. Also hearing about the variety of ways organize their relationships and sex lives will really deprogram you from the single view of gender and sexuality you were brought up in.

I know his older material is available for designs

This is a great article. The number of toys that are just smaller versions of tools that adults use show that children want to help and be adults. I want to try to make sure I do this with my upcoming daughter and REALLY need to do this with any future boys I have. The number of young men who can’t do any cleaning or cooking is unsustainable. These are life skills that everyone needs to learn

The best thing about The Wok is that he has a large section at the front about what brands to get for all of the various sauces you will need. I went to the Asian grocery store by my house and got almost all of them. I spent like $100 on sauces the first time but have used them for years. Now its a few bucks as I refresh the ones I use the most. I recommend it