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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • Everyone is different, and that’s ok. It might be worth considering however. I know for me, the negativity will linger until I express it. Having another person around also acts as an emotional regulator. Their emotional reaction to your stories acts to restabilise your own.

    Negativity and negative thoughts often grow in the shadows. By pushing straight into them, you can often resolve and disperse them. They exist to make you confront something. Once you’ve done that, their existence is no longer required, and it’s easier to let them go.

    A few drinks, or some ice-cream traditionally helps this process.

    As I said, everyone is different, so what works for others, might now work for you. It’s worth considering however, if it can help free up the good memories.


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    I’ve found it helpful for lancing the feelings of loss and pain from otherwise positive memories. I want those memories, and I don’t want them poisoned by the negative feelings. By going through them I can decouple them from the loss and express that. It also lets me vent it in a controlled way.



  • Most don’t blame women, it’s mostly the loudmouths online that do that. There are a huge number of men suffering in silence. They often know it’s them, but don’t know how to start fixing it.

    I help out with a charity focused on men’s mental health. It’s both depressing how many men suffer, and great to watch them “find their tribe” and start resolving it.


  • That would make sense. Unfortunately, first class is at the front, and that boards first. It sort of flows from there.

    I’ve also seen enough people abusing the overhead lockers to completely break back to front boarding. They get on and just stick their bag in the first available space, before heading back. Now, when the people at the front board, their bag space is taken up already. They now have to fight to the back, on landing to get their bags.











  • Back tracking is FAR harder, ego wise.

    Part of the goal isn’t to reverse it, but to slow further slips down the slope. They will remember the hassle it caused this time, and decide that it’s not worth trying for an easy life from the religious nutjobs, if the gamers will kick up more of a stink.