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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • As to why I think you are autistic; misunderstanding common aphorism, rigid focus on “how things should be”, hard statements attempting to assign intent to actions without mentioning tone. Especially that last bit equating inflection to indicate a question as understanding tone.

    I’ll try to clarify. In conversations between non-autistic people, there is an additional layer to the conversation beyond the information in the words themselves and beyond the implications of basic punctuation. Body posture, eye contact, facial expression, volume, and cadence at which you speak all convey both emotions and intent. These things can be observed and interpreted instinctively.

    People with autism cannot do this to one degree or another. They absolutely still broadcast these things when they speak, but are largely unaware of it.

    Think of it in terms of sound. How could you know if you are whispering or yelling if you are deaf?

    Are you doing the emotional equivalent of whispering when you speak? Answering questions with a one word sentence with flat affect. People will change the subject or switch to talking to someone else because they interpret that as you expressing disinterest.

    Are you doing the emotional equivalent of yelling your inner feelings with everything word. People will become visibly uncomfortable when you speak and try to get away from you as soon as they can.

    When you claim you speak in a “clear, loud, neutral voice” while staring them in the eyes; I believe that you are both clear and loud. I’m not so convinced that you are as neutral as you think.