

Trans gal here! For a time I identified similarly to your last paragraph. I wasn’t sure what I was was, but I didn’t feel particularly male or female. I told people I was nonbinary because I wasn’t sure where I was in that mix for a more specific label.
Eventually I realized that I aligned as more of a tomboy in fashion, but my identity felt firmly female despite my shifts in expression. That was my journey, wishing you luck on finding yourself!
Used to tell my partner I wish I was gay to teach my parents a lesson in empathy… Wow did that backfire being trans & gay