Mossy Feathers (She/Her)

Secretly an opossum.

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Cake day: July 20th, 2023

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  • God, the number of people here who don’t know what “more likely” means is insane. Just because you aren’t trans, enby or disabled doesn’t mean the study is bullshit because you hate AI. It means that if you walk up to a random person and ask them about AI, they’re more likely to hate it if they exist in one of those groups.

    Secondly, studies like this have value because they can clue people into issues that a community is having. If everyone is neutral about a thing, except for disabled people (who hate it), then maybe that means that the thing is having a disproportionately negative impact on disabled people. Studies like this are not unlike saying “hey, there’s smoke over there, there might be a fire.”


  • Girl, I’ve seen what it looks like when a cis man leans on their girlfriend or wife as their sole source of emotional support. I’ve seen how stressful it is when they expect for you to act as their social circle and plan events for them; and I’ve not just seen one cis guy do it, I’ve seen several. I’ve had someone do it to me. It’s not my job to fix someone. I cannot be an emotional crutch for someone who won’t get a therapist or refuses to make friends on their own. I have a lot of my own problems I’m dealing with, some of which are fairly significant; I don’t need someone else being dependant on me.

    Maybe you’ve had better experiences. I haven’t, nor have a number of the people I know.

    Edit: it’s one thing to vent, it’s another thing to expect solutions.









  • It reminds me of the “allies” who insist that in LGBTQIA+ the A stands for ally instead of asexual. Literally replacing a marginalized sexual identity community with being tangential to the larger community.

    Oh my god, they are the worst. Sometimes they’re just clueless and will happily listen when you correct them, but I’ve found a lot of them will fight back and try to gatekeep. Because someone who is cishet deserves to be considered part of the community more than someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction (asexual), romantic attraction (aromantic) and/or the concept of gender (agender). Because someone who is cishet should be deciding who is allowed in a movement based around civil rights for people who aren’t cishet.

    If you don’t think it’s appropriate for white people to tell black people how to run their civil rights movements or how to run a tribe as an honorary tribal member, why would it be appropriate for a cishet to tell queer people how to run their movement? If you’re an ally then you’re here to listen and amplify our voices, not tell us how to be gay (and you sure as hell shouldn’t be policing our voices and tell us what is or isn’t queerphobic *looks at the painfully obviously straight tankies who crawled up my asshole and told me I was homophobic because I told them to stop sucking Kim Jong Un’s dick*)


  • No. All of the queer people I know hate the ally flag. Why? Because the point of being an ally is that you’re supposed to be supporting the community as one of us. By flying the ally flag, you’re setting yourself apart and distancing yourself from queer people. You’re essentially saying, “I’m not actually gay, I just support gays”. If you wanna actually be an ally, fly a rainbow flag and let them confuse you for being gay. That’s where you’re actually putting yourself at risk, and that’s where true allyship exists. Otherwise you could be a coward and walk away whenever the heat gets too intense.