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Cake day: July 15th, 2023

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  • I was talking about the hypothetical scenario where you gave it to them and were miffed it didn’t go towards food, so I agree 100% with what you’re saying. Don’t give your money away if you can’t afford to let someone else do what they want with it.

    A lot of people don’t mind giving someone something they need without placing conditions on it. But it’s okay to be different.


  • It’s weird to give someone money and care what they do with it unless you’re expecting them to pay you back someday. You’re giving it away, so it’s expendable to you, and you’ll probably never interact with the person again, so it’s odd to care about the specifics beyond “I hope this helps.”

    You’ll never give them enough money to actually change their situation, and that’s not your fault but it’s also not your problem, it’s theirs. If they think they need a cigarette more than a sandwich, who am I to tell them they are wrong? It’s their money now, not mine.