Only once. After things got intense and I slipped my foot the wrong way and almost ended up in a ditch, we stopped, finished up, and that was the last time.

Seriously, if the head isn’t good enough to make the driving unsafe, then it isn’t worth the safety issues in the first place

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing yourself with the world. Great pics of a very sexy woman

Generally, convincing a partner to open a relationship is a bad idea. It’s better to frame it as something you’d like to try, and let them gradually warm to the idea through conversation.

But since he’s bringing it up, you can modify that. Be honest. Tell him that it’s a turn on. Discuss the boundaries, expectations and benefits. Let it build to a mutual desire, and it’ll happen naturally.

It’s usually a good idea to be very picky about who is and isn’t an acceptable play partner. Strangers vs friends are a totally different vibe. Men vs women. Emotional bonding okay or not. All the little things that can make the experience go good or bad.

Back in the era of my non monogamous life, if I was sharing with other men, it had to be a situation of mutual respect. No exceptions, no mistakes on that allowed or I was out and that meant out if the boundary wasn’t enforced by my partner as well. So it was almost always going to happen with friends, or in established groups for the purpose.

With women, I still insisted on that respect, it was just less likely to go wrong since even unfamiliar women willing to play were also usually all about agreements being done before play. Only ever had to call that rule into things once. Then again, even with men because it was always a mutually agreed process, it never had to go beyond a “hey man, remember we’re all here to have fun, it isn’t a competition” and it would be fine, no need to end the play.

Really, most guys that are bringing it up, all you gotta do is be patient and be willing to insist everything is hashed out before there’s other dick in you. Which is just as true if you’re all guys, as far as I ever saw, and it holds true if there’s no second dick involved at all.

I’ve been the second guy as well. So I’d say make sure that whoever you might pick is aware of your boundaries and asks questions that show they understand what is involved, rather than them chasing tail and not caring about anything else. It’s a hell of a lot nicer if you’re the outsider if your new partners are clear about big issues. Like, if the couple want a bit of role play where you’re playing bull, you need to know that. And the reverse is even more important; if there’s something like they don’t want you complimenting or encouraging either of them, you want to know that. It can be awkward as hell to express admiration of someone’s cunnilingus skills and they realize that they don’t want your input like that.

Remember, all the work it takes/took you and your guy to become happy partners has to be done for the third person, and it has to be right for both of you and for him/her. It’s not just you having sex with the third party, even if your bf isn’t in the room. There’s still three interactions in play. If you’re all in the room, every little dynamic might matter.

Also, since your question came with a pic, I don’t think you’ll have trouble finding someone, so you can afford to be picky.

I’m all for it.

It’s easy enough to filter out if a specific user gets spammy, and I got very used to seeing men naked in erotic settings a long time ago. It doesn’t turn me on, but it’s still nice to know that guys can share themselves and feel good.

I do have a bit of snobbery about the quality of the pictures themselves, but does that matter? I don’t vote based on it, and don’t even comment often enough to spend that time complaining about someone else’s pics.

But you did ask for input about types of pics. Me, from the standpoint of appreciating good erotic photography, I prefer shots taken with some care and planning. Random dick picks are boring. As are those where someone is throttling their dong. We’ve all seen that, it ceases to be visually compelling.

A good shot that includes the rest of the body to some degree, in decent lighting, and in natural poses are top tier. A penis isn’t necessary for a picture to be erotic, the same as full frontal isn’t necessary for photos of women to be. So, when in doubt, diversify. Give us the line of your hip, or the way lats curve. Something showing the beauty of the male form.

I mean, take a look and then keep walking

Wtf else is anyone going to do?

That’s the frenulum

The frenulum is a fren to you, yum.

Sure! Both actually.

While I’m not into men, I am into dominance, and can enjoy some things with men in that context, so I’ve done most things you can do with other men.

Can’t say giving a hummer worked well. The extra concentration needed took me out or the right headspace to ignore that I was with a man, so I couldn’t focus on what I was doing, if that makes sense.

I’ve gotten quite a few though. I can’t say they’re better than head without the vibration, but they are definitely different in a pleasant way.

You seem to be a very wonderful person to be around, even without the sex involved.

Sure, it feels fine. The whole idea that a pussy gets too relaxed to be felt is not going to apply to anyone with a normally functioning penis. There are issues that reduce sensitivity enough that a fully relaxed vagina might not provide enough stimulation to reach orgasm. And may not be felt to a significant degree through a condom when you have those issues.

But that’s what it is, relaxed muscles. You can get pounded for hours, and as long as you’re in decent health, and have done kegals, you should still be able to engage those muscles and grip just fine.

As a fantasy thing though, it is absolutely possible for at least a few guys in the train to have trouble touching the walls of your exhausted and abused cunt. Even a horse cock might not do more than tickle the sides once you’ve been fucked into a hypnotic state. If those muscles are just too worn out to flex, it’s not going to feel like much compared to when they all got started.

But, give you a few minutes, a bottle of water, and a slap on the ass, and you’ll be able to grip again.

Sure, and it’s easy to tell the difference usually. Mouth, pussy, ass, they’re just built different.

Now, an ass that’s been well used, if you’re wearing a condom, could probably be harder to tell from a warmed up pussy.

And yes, you can usually tell if a pussy has already been well fucked. The muscles tend to relax after the first few. If anyone ahead of you was allowed to come inside, it’s definitely more slippery. You might not notice as much if you’re wearing a condom, but if you pay attention you can tell the difference between semen and pussy juice even through a condom.

I rarely shared a woman with other men where I was willing to not use a condom, but you can absolutely tell the difference then, without question. I’ve been the first one in, and gone later in the train, and it is unmistakable, even without anyone coming inside.

With enough men, it may not be pleasant though. A lot of women will stop being able to lubricate on their own, and if they don’t want artificial lube, it can get into the kind of pain that isn’t fun trying to go at it the way is usually wanted in a situation like that. Most women I encountered that wanted a gang bang wanted it to be hard, forceful. A dry pussy hurts a bit to get into and can hurt a lot to fuck. Trying to fuck hard, and even with a love of pain, it can be too much.

So, if you’re prone to running out of your own juices, plan ahead if you’re taking more than two or three in a row. Have lube handy, or be prepared to be raw by the end of things.

I don’t know that I’ve ever been truly torn over a fantasy. Anything I felt would be fun, I did.

It didn’t all work out, of course. Most of it did, but not at every occurrence.

Take a gang bang for example. I thought it might be fun, and when a lady in one of the groups I was in wanted to have one, I signed up.

It turns out that a lot of what happens at a gang bang is waiting around watching other men masturbate. Once you have more than four or five people, you can’t all have a good view of the action without extra effort and planning. It was still fun, but not as exciting as I had thought it would be. Still joined in a few later on, with varying degrees of enjoyment, but it all fell short of the fantasy.

However, performing in front of a crowd was better than the fantasy. It is unique, even if you’re used to orgies and group scenes. Being on a stage, even a small one in someone’s play room, being watched and applauded, it is a rush. If the crowd is bigger, there’s a tipping point where it feels more anonymous, even if you know everyone. You’re up there, they’re watching, and waves of arousal move through the audience. People start masturbating to what you’re doing, or having sex while watching you. Hard to not enjoy that feeling, and it surpassed how intense I thought it would be.

Define star.

The days of genuine stars is either at its end, or gone, depending on who you ask.

But, as porn production expanded into the masses, you get more people working at small scale that have fan bases, if not the kind of draw power that can fill clubs on strip tours the way you could see in the 90s.

But, yeah, if you ran in the right circles back then, it was possible to encounter some of the bigger names at parties. The problem is that I was never into porn enough to recognize names unless it was a name big enough to have crossed into pop culture to a degree. Plenty of them did outcalls too, but that was never my scene.

So, back then, I did have sex with a couple of women that were porn performers, but they either weren’t big names, or they at least weren’t big enough I recognized them. Nor do I really remember what names I heard. Kind of useless tbh, for this.

The only one I remember by name that I met at a party, I didn’t have sex with. That was Kobe Tai. As best I can remember, she didn’t have sex with anyone but the guy she came with. I’m not even certain they did have sex, but they were making out.

The ones I did have sex with, it wasn’t anything special. It wasn’t bad at all, just not mind blowing. The one lady was essentially starfishing with everyone, and I suspect that she had been paid to show up and perform with guests. She was gorgeous, and her pussy was very alive despite her just laying there. Squeezing and almost rippling inside. Maybe that’s why she was not moving much, to concentrate on that.

The other back then was more interesting. Again, no clue what her name was. I wouldn’t have known she was a performer on film if I hadn’t been told later. She was on a stage at one point, with a guy that was also a pro, but after their performance, she went around the party basically riding cocks for an hour or so; condoms mandatory. She made me come, and either faked one really well, or came as well. There was certainly a lot of internal action while she made a lot of noise lol.

More recently, back before I got married and settled into monogamy after a bad car accident, I did film a couple of scenes with a lady that did her own porn. I was masked, and it was BDSM based. So it was very fun, but definitely not something I could do regularly. Too many interruptions for the sake of filming things. I couldn’t really get into the right head space for it to be fulfilling. Still a fun experience, just not the same as doing it for mutual pleasure.

Boring as hell in other words. I have a ton of great stories from my youth, but those aren’t among them.

One part body language, one part voice control, and one part words

A lot of dominance is about how you approach a person, right? You tie them up, bend them over, whatever, but it’s about establishing position. So when you can’t touch or do that, you use your body. Get closer to them, inside their space. Loom over them, even if you happen to be shorter. By owning their space, you control their mind at least a little.

Then, you use your voice. Going deeper is helpful. A growled threat is often more effective than a slap, and it’s almost always better than your normal voice. Volume matters, but not louder. You’re in close already, so put some menace into your voice, lean in a little closer, and drop the volume. A little audible sneer may go well for a brat too.

When choosing words, I tend to like starting with questions, especially when someone is playing brat. You lure the brat out, ask them if they know what’s going to happen if they don’t obey. As soon as they start to answer, interrupt and tell them only to answer when told to. Ask again, let the brat start to surface and interrupt with a sharp sound, like slapping your own leg, or a table, then tell them you didn’t say they could talk.

Some brats escalate, others are going to be shaken out of it since most brat play is about the acting out and eventual punishment. So, when you change the script, it flips a different switch in their head, it breaks out of the expected. When you do that, it doesn’t matter if they escalate, because you double down on the quiet and forceful side or things. If it breaks them into being a good little girl the first few times, that’s great too; nothing wrong with an easy move into their headspace.

You can, with a bit of luck and some practice, get some subs all the way into their subspace with no touches at all, if you keep ramping up the pressure by using your presence and voice.

It helps if you imagine them tied up or on their knees as well. Getting into the right metal space makes the performance easier because it stops being a performance, you become menacing and in control.

I can’t promise it’ll work, as obviously everyone is different, and your little brat may need a different scene. But it usually does work when doing something physical isn’t possible.

Im as kink friendly as it gets. But scat is off the menu, period.

There’s plenty of stuff that I don’t or won’t participate in as a receiver, like sounding as an example, but it doesn’t bother me at all to see. But if there’s scat play going on, I’m out. Don’t want to even see it, much less smell it or hear it.

My own kinks run towards bdsm. Predominantly dominance play, bondage, and pain. I’m dominant, and being tied up isn’t interesting to me, but I enjoy pain for myself, though not all types in all situations.

My preference is for gentle domination rather than aggressive or demeaning, though I can do that. I just really enjoy the process of taking a partner deeper into the sensation of giving up control, sinking into the pleasure of pain. To me, the most fun way of getting there is slow, gradual, and in a way that’s more a seduction into the darkness than a push. Even using floggers and whips, I like to build up, layer sensations and types of pain until the sub gets pulled under by their own mind rather than being overwhelmed from the outside.

If that’s done while the sub is tied up, be it as simple as wrist cuffs, or as complex as a suspension, all the better. I like them knowing they could be free, if they asked for it, and getting right to the edge where they might safe word out, but don’t want to because there’s still more to experience.

But, when I’m in the mood to receive sensation, take pain, part of my enjoyment is in not needing the restraint. It’s pushing myself to my own boundaries that does it for me. I want something I can grab to keep myself stable, but that I can’t rely on keeping me upright. If I fall, I want to fall, not just hang there, if that makes sense.

I prefer to top women, but have topped men as well. It’s less sexual with men, since I’m not attracted to them, but when the sub needs some degree of sexual activity, I can manage to do it. I can usually rely on the dominance play to give enough arousal to give them what they need, if they do need it to be sexual. A few times, back in my younger days when I was still active in the local scene, I needed a woman partner involved if a man wanted some kind of sexual interaction as part of the scene, and I definitely performed better with a woman involved.

To me, there wasn’t much difference in my own enjoyment between topping a man my way, and topping a woman that preferred very hard methods, or wanted a fast ramp up in force. Sure, I didn’t and don’t enjoy men, and I do enjoy women, but my preference for my style of dominance and pain is more enjoyable than other ways of doing things. It’s one of those “at least I’m playing at all” kind of things.

And I definitely enjoy pleasing someone that’s a long term partner any way they need. But when you’re playing with people at a party or small gathering, it isn’t always going to be your actual partner, and it’s still fun to play when single, so applying sometimes you work outside your preferences

Me and my wife play together, but we stay monogamous unless it’s a very special occasion.

Just outside of Myrtle Beach.

It was owned by individuals, not rented or leased, so the exact spot isn’t useful. I wish more places like that could be booked for similar events though. The way thing are now, though, I don’t know if I’d trust a company to not have cameras hidden; same with air b&b. Heck, even individuals could, so you have to trust the host implicitly in a way that wasn’t necessary at the time.

In one go, never wearing any clothes at all, it would have been a week, plus or minus a few hours.

Went to stay with some like minded people for a vacation on private property at the beach. No need for clothes at all as the weather was lovely, the grounds were fenced for privacy, and plenty of supplies were laid in for everyone. Most people there didn’t bother to wear anything at all. Some wore a robe, though rarely tied, instead of carrying a towel or other cloth barrier.

It was definitely a getaway for sex in various forms, but even with the dozen odd couples and handful of singles invited, there were plenty of breaks for other activities. Some would make a trip outside the property to go down to the actual beach, and would slip into swimwear, but once I rid myself of the clothes, I found I didn’t want to put them back on, so never went down, except for one moonlight excursion.

Most of the non sexual time was quiet music, movies, games, and conversation.

I have a “rule”

I will gladly enjoy what someone shared in scale with the apparent intent of the material.

So, a pretty woman sharing a clothed picture (even if the clothing is very sexy), isn’t something I’m going to enjoy on a sexual level. I might think for a bit that it would be nice if she shared more than that, but that’s where it ends.

If a woman shares a picture of her in clothing, but does so while saying something like “guess what I look like under this”, that’s a direct invitation to fantasize.

This means that the regular selfie on your profile isn’t something that would normally lead me to sexual thoughts. And it didn’t this time because the way you asked the question was interesting enough that I wanted to think about that rather than enjoy the implied permission to enjoy it sexually via fantasy.

I’ve never been the kind to sexualize pictures of women that weren’t already sexual. I have no idea why, but even bikinis and lingerie pics never seemed sexual to me.

Don’t get me wrong, I very much enjoy such pictures! But it’s more the way I enjoy a painting, or someone dancing. It’s beautiful, but not sexual for me.

Tbh, I don’t even assume outright nudes are sexual any more. I used to, but when all those celebrities’ pictures got leaked years ago, it made me rethink that. Now, if I know the person didn’t share the images, I avoid them. If the picture looks like they may not have intended to share it with everyone, it’s the same thing.

Not sure if you wanted that kind of response, but that’s my take on things. You’re very pretty though, and if you ever decide to share more of your body with the world, I’m quite sure they will make fpr wonderful fantasies.