• this is why i consider myself bi and lesbian. i might (big might) date a man but not a manly man. basically labels can never fully encompass somebodies sexuality and are just… labels.

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        Fair enough. I can certainly understand why a lot of people wouldn’t lol Especially with all of the (pretty deserved) connotations associated with it.

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        the thing that pisses me off is the frequent definition of “masculine” as somebody who is a hyper-asshole, or at least centered on making a lot of noise for absolutely no reason and generally just being on a micro-rampage all the time.

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        Basically this. As a straight(ish) cis person with exclusively queer friends (purely by happenstance of course) that do be how it is for folks who are not bi/pan/Omni is just we’re just not attracted to masculinity/femininity.

        Basically think of whatever is just super not your type, and imagine that feeling but towards specifically masculinity or femininity in general and you have what it’s like

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      i’ve talked to my bi and straight friends and tried to understand what it is about men they like and like… i almost get it but i just really prefer girls. Feel free to explain though

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        In short: Nerd is nerd, cuddly is cuddly, kiss is kiss, ass is ass and idc if I’m penetrated by a cock or dildo or if I penetrate

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        Some guys are cute but I’m not attracted to most men. I like cute and pretty guys, androgynous guys as well. Most men put almost no effort into their looks and the ones who do often tend to lean into masculinity which isn’t for me.