• Dave2@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 months ago

    It probably wouldn’t hurt to try? Maybe you’ll figure something out about yourself. Be open about what you’re doing though, wouldn’t want to break any hearts right?

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      3 months ago

      Right… Forgot to think about the last part, thanks for reminding me

      • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
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        3 months ago

        Think about it this way: if the woman you were dating, or married to for ten years, suddenly told you she wasn’t, and never had been, attracted to you, but was merely faking it the entire time because she wanted you to care for her, would you be aggrieved? Even if you tried to do it in the most earnest and caring manner possible, by trying to be the perfect partner and doing everything else that’s a part of a relationship besides being attracted to them, it would still be a horrendous gut punch to your partner when they found out.

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          3 months ago

          If that happened I would end my life on the spot. But I’m sure I can become attracted to him. I can learn to be anything.