Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It’s deciding that the fact you were hurt in the past won’t control how you react to getting hurt, or the possibility of getting hurt, in the future. It only applies to situations you decide to perpetuate. Resentment without “holding the hot coal” is a perfectly reasonable alternative when getting hurt; you can decide you will continue to react negatively to getting repeatedly hurt rather than accepting it, without holding onto it as extra pain on top of the hurt you experience. But we don’t really have a word for that in-between, recognition/acknowledgement are maybe the best. But you can hold on to the fact that you are being repeatedly injured and acknowledge that.
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It’s deciding that the fact you were hurt in the past won’t control how you react to getting hurt, or the possibility of getting hurt, in the future. It only applies to situations you decide to perpetuate. Resentment without “holding the hot coal” is a perfectly reasonable alternative when getting hurt; you can decide you will continue to react negatively to getting repeatedly hurt rather than accepting it, without holding onto it as extra pain on top of the hurt you experience. But we don’t really have a word for that in-between, recognition/acknowledgement are maybe the best. But you can hold on to the fact that you are being repeatedly injured and acknowledge that.
This monk has a good point at 1hr 35 mins https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOZv5YZ0iUc