Certain people really want to know where you are on the totem pole. I’ve definitely gotten some barely contained disdain at formal events when I’ve told people I haven’t gone to full university.
Yeah, I’m the opposite. The handful of times I’ve asked when desperate for a conversation, the results were at best mixed for the conversation and most times I feel worse.
If they’re ‘above’ me that just results in me feeling small. If they’re below me it makes me feel uncomfortable or even rude, even if it was just a question. The only time it works out is if they’re roughly “on par” with me and that’s only like a third of the time the case. Not great odds.
Just gotta celebrate it. We need people to do jobs in every aspect of society. Even those “lesser” jobs need to be done. Even if the follow up is, “oh what’s that like? Do you like it?” It can get the person talking and lead to other topics
My kids are starting a new school in the fall, so ive been asking this question a lot. Ive learned so much about people and their interest by just starting there
Or just asking to see if they’re more successful than you
I feel like that’d be a reason to not ask. But I suppose it depends on the person.
Certain people really want to know where you are on the totem pole. I’ve definitely gotten some barely contained disdain at formal events when I’ve told people I haven’t gone to full university.
Yeah, I’m the opposite. The handful of times I’ve asked when desperate for a conversation, the results were at best mixed for the conversation and most times I feel worse.
If they’re ‘above’ me that just results in me feeling small. If they’re below me it makes me feel uncomfortable or even rude, even if it was just a question. The only time it works out is if they’re roughly “on par” with me and that’s only like a third of the time the case. Not great odds.
Just gotta celebrate it. We need people to do jobs in every aspect of society. Even those “lesser” jobs need to be done. Even if the follow up is, “oh what’s that like? Do you like it?” It can get the person talking and lead to other topics
My kids are starting a new school in the fall, so ive been asking this question a lot. Ive learned so much about people and their interest by just starting there